Posts Tagged ‘acceptance’

What does the world see when they see us? Do they see love, acceptance, similarity, lies, approval, truth, silence or boldness? For a while now I have delved into Scripture, sought out Godly counsel and read some controversial articles online while seeking to obtain answers to some questions. I have come to the conclusion that we, Christians, are more concerned with hurting some one’s feelings, stepping on toes, being ostracized or verbally attacked rather than being concerned with taking a stand and defending our faith based on Scripture and what God says is right; not what man says is right!

Scripture says we will be persecuted for our beliefs, “If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you. Remember the word that I said to you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted me, they will also persecute you. If they kept my word, they will also keep yours.” John 15:18-20

We need to be  more concerned with doing what God says is right rather than with what man says is right by speaking His Truth boldly, spoken in love, to others. There is so much emphasis on wanting someone to be “happy” so we hesitate to share what God says about what they’re doing when they say it makes them happy. If God says it’s wrong, it’s wrong. We think if they claim it’s “love” then who are we to say it’s wrong even though God calls adultery, fornication, homosexuality, etc. wrong and not love, not His definition of “love”!

To quote Mark Gungor, “Human love does not transcend God’s righteousness – ever.”

It’s time we stop approving of things God disapproves of and lovingly share His thoughts on the subjects. None of our sins are alright with God and if we are to be representing Him shouldn’t we be agreeing with what He says?! Man doesn’t get to determine right and wrong; only God can determine it.  As it states in I Cor 4:4, “My conscience is clear, but that doesn’t prove I’m right. It is the Lord himself who will examine me and decide.” We are only fooling ourselves and misrepresenting God to others by not explaining this difference to them.

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The acceptance of who we claim to be seems so important and necessary to our existence on this earth. Yet, our acceptance is really quite the opposite of what God requires of us. He tells us to “deny” ourself, (Luke 9:23 “if any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me.”) and to be more like Him and less like us! Yes, He takes us as we are but then the changes take place and that’s when it’s evident that we want what He wants. The stubborn, strong willed, resistant persons we are do not reflect total submission & true repentance.

Don’t limit God (Luke 1:37 “Nothing is impossible with God.”) by telling Him, like you tell the world: “this is just who I am and you can either accept me or not. I can’t change; (James 4:7 “Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and He will flee from you.”) I’ve tried. I’m not changing for anyone!” Good news: God is not just anyone!! He created you and He’s the only One who can change you to be more like Him & less like You. John 3:30 “He must increase, but I must decrease.”

We must ask God to make us willing to accept the changes He wants to make in us then have faith that He will “complete the good work” Phil. 1:6 He has in mind for us. We can trust God! Jer. 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Jeremiah 29:11 (click on picture)

Not sure how to begin but I do know it sure feels good to be blogging through clear eyes instead of from a heavy heart! Let me just start by saying that we had a most amazing Christmas! There were so many reasons why but the most important is because we saw God’s hand in our move, we felt His love all around us, and we know this is right where He wants us, right now, in our lives.

I guess that once we accepted that we were losing our home we automatically let go of it completely. Each time we go over to pack more items it feels as if we’re in someone else’s house, at least to me anyway. We continue to feel more at home in our new home. Sure all the boxes are suffocating us and there is no room for every detail of our lives but it’s going to be home soon.

I actually haven’t cried in quite a few days so that’s a huge improvement. My husband is having so many mixed emotions from all of this. Although he feels extremely blessed and thankful, there’s something he can’t quite put his finger on that’s still bothering him. Why do I bring this up? Probably because I feel like I have to fix it for him. But then I realized today that he has to let God bring him through this, not me. I can pray for him and that will do more than I can!

The kids are already more than used to the new house and settled in. They were so happy and surprised by what was supposed to be a hard and little Christmas. They were a little spoiled I have to say:) No, not by just us but they have family and friends and even anonymous friends who loved on them and us so much this Christmas!

We continue to remain in awe of God’s provisions, how He meets our needs, how He has generously given us even our wants and how He has held our hands through all of this. It was so hard not to be able to be around family this holiday! It was great to be able to see them in pictures though. It made me feel closer somehow and we did get to talk on the phone.

Enough rambling for now…..there are so many things I don’t want to forget about this time in our lives….yes, I would love to forget the sadness, the hurt, the anger but I want to remember the family and friends who were there for us and continue to stay close by, I want to remember the details that God brought into place, the attitude of my children, the love of our heavenly Father who was and is very present in our lives!

It’s kind of funny how we’ve noticed some improvements in this little house of ours as opposed to our other dream house. So, even though the microwave won’t fit under the kitchen cabinets, the cats don’t have their nighttime bedroom in the in-house laundry room anymore, we have to take dibs on the one bathroom now, I share a closet with my daughter, my son is sleeping temporarily on the couch since his bed won’t fit, the frig barely holds eggs let alone a grocery trip, I have to wear gloves and a parka to go outside to do the laundry, the office is now combined with the living room/storage of 200 boxes, & the house needs painted (to name just some of the changes), we do have so much to be thankful for.

If you would like to pray for some specifics for me and my family, may I be so bold as to suggest some detailed prayer requests? Pray for the small details – the organization of our stuff, patience while trying to find those places, tolerance of each other in the smallness of this home, pray that God brings us even closer to each other, that He continues to provide for our needs, that He’ll heal my back or provide a better bed for me to rest when I sleep, pray for Scott while at work – his safety, his strength, his rest at night, his acceptance of this situation and his peace of mind. Pray that we are content where we are and that we continue to give God all the glory, all the praise because He is an amazing Father to us! Pray for peace in my family because Satan loves to try to get between us! Pray for our kids to continue to be healthy and their tolerance of each other. Thank Him, on our behalf, for all He means to us and He’s done for us! We are so unworthy but He never lets go of us! Our church family, pastor and his wife are a Godsend to us and we have come to love them like we loved our former church family and pastor – something we didn’t think possible! Their hearts for us have gotten us through so much of the rough stuff since Scott lost his job in 2008. They allow us to be so transparent and they don’t hesitate to love on us or just let us cry when we needed to. I never want to trade in the blessings of this hard time for all the easy and do it alone’s in the world. We’ve needed every part of it and every person who’s been there for us & with us!

The truly amazing part is this:  I’m actually thankful that God allowed us to lose our home and that God brought us to this house! Isn’t that unbelievable? The other day I was over at our “dream home” and just had to stop and thank Him! I got here sooner this time than the other times in the past! I know I’m growing spiritually and that makes it all worth it! The most important thing I want to remember from all of this is just that – God will always bring us through and it always turns out better than we imagined! He is always faithful! Just sayin’….

Full of Life!

Full of Life!

It amazes me still, after all this time, how a certain group of teens can bring such laughter and joy to my heart everytime I’m with them! Sure, they’re loud, WooHoo!!! We Won! busy

Texting is like breathing for them

Texting is like breathing for them

and rambunctious but they’re part of my world now and they make me smile! There are few things that put that expression on my face lately, Clipart Illustration of a Scared Chicken In A Green Shirt, Bendisince Scott lost his job, but these guys manage to wake up the hope and joy inside of me because of theirs. First and foremost, they’re Christian teens who love the Jesus I do Clip Art Graphic of a Wooden Cross Cone Cartoon Characterand that makes a world of difference. They’re also leaders and examples to my son who is a preteen or “Tween” as they call it these days and they’re doing a great job there too! I know they’re lives aren’t perfect eitherPhoto of Coloured pencils laid out on black background in studio but they share their hearts with me, their sense of humor and their friendship, which I’m sure is odd – me being an adult!

Facebookin' all night long

Facebookin' all night long

They bring so much to my life but mostly it’s the smiles that show me their acceptance and love! They’re so real and that part of my reality is great! Can you tell I’m proud of them

REACH Teens (yearbook staff)

REACH Teens (yearbook staff)

and consider them a blessing in my life? I do! I have to thank them for including me in their world0025-0802-2115-0836_clip_art_graphic_of_a_flash_camera_cartoon_character_running and allowing themselves to care about a 40 something teacher who might embarrass herself here and again but I know they’re laughing with me, not at me, right guys? To my Yearbook Staff: You’re all a very positive part of my life and an awesome part of my weeks – I look forward to Thursday because of YOU! I love you guys! Stock Photo of Love Hearts on Sky BackgroundClip Art Graphic of a Cute Brown Dog Cartoon Character

Please let me challenge each of you with the following verse:

Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12

Love,  Mrs. L (“Mrs. Lele”)

Philippians 1:3 “I thank my God upon every
remembrance of you,” Christian Cross And Wheat

In case you’re looking for a link to a devotional web site for teens:

http://www.devotional-reflections-from-the-bible.com/ChristianTeenDevotionals.html

I feel like I should be the main character, at times, in one of Stephen King’s horror movies! Wait! Don’t freak out on me, let me explain: Turning 40 was a great time in my life but the years since have been quite a challenge dealing with my “multiple personalities”. I say this in jest but let me add a disclaimer here: I do not believe in mocking people who really have to deal with this real problem. I’m simply borrowing the description to help explain a little of who I’ve become. Now, back to me: For the last couple of years, especially this past year, I have watched myself become someone I can’t stand a few days out of every month. No, it’s not PMS. It’s so different. Out of the blue, when no one expects it, appears the wicked witch of the Hughes’ household! I have become down right mean and evil. I’m not outwardly destructive, physically abusive nor do I use language that God would hate but I do show absolutely no patience, look for fights among my family, push buttons, assume the worst about everyone, jump on everyone for absolutely no reason and defensive – WOAH! I act like the whole world is against me and feel I can’t do anything right! Who is this person? Where did she evolve? How do I send her to the other side of the planet? I finally broke down and went to the Dr. looking for some sort of medical answers to explain away my uncontrollable fits of rage! There must be a name for it! A “good” reason I seem so psychotic and tend to go “from Angel to Witch in 60 seconds or less”! Well…….even if you find it hard to believe, there is a name for it! I wasn’t sure if I was comfortable accepting that or not but like a friend told me, “at least you’ve got a reason now, that would make me feel better!” I have mixed feelings about having a name for it and accepting that this Christian, me, doesn’t have the kind of self control in those areas when God tells me I need to have self control! You know…. when I have to accept something, out of my control, and I’m told that’s just the way it is and you can’t do a thing about it, I get so stubborn and think otherwise! Only to have it slammed right back in my face that “No, YOU don’t have control over this situation!” However, and this is really big: God is the One who is in control! He knows the crazy, outraged individual I become sometimes and He, in His infinite wisdom, has quieted my children at those times, given gentleness to my husband during my episodes, and surrounds me with the love of my family to help me endure those times! The same family who is on the receiving end of my rage and outbursts? They are the same ones who shower me with hugs and so much love that I melt in their presence and I come back to being the person they are praying returns quickly, “pleeeeaaase Dear God!” Don’t think for one minute that it happens as quickly as they, or I, would like but it does happen and I do calm down and realize they were never the reason so I apologize, they forgive and we go on. What a vicious cycle for them to have to go through to tolerate me sometimes. But they’re willing as long as I come back humble and loving! How could I not? This family of mine accepts me with all my faults and my emotional outbursts! What am I teaching my kids? Ooops, did I really go there? Yeah, that’s a big guilt trip I put myself through every time it happens! Then I realized that I’m teaching them that even Mom needs more self control, more humility, more love, more dependence on God, more forgiveness, more acceptance and understanding, and always, more of them in her life! So, for right now, the “angel” is here but when the “wicked witch” returns, and I’m afraid she will, my wonderful blessing of a family will welcome her with loving arms until she “melts away” again into their LeeAnne/wife/mom! I just pray the acceptance, on my end, comes quickly! Probably not!

BTW: if you really want to know the name I spoke of, just ask sometime in private! It’s not blog worthy:)

Where do I start about this one? Wow! As most of you know: my “baby” turned 11 recently and it was a huge event for both of us but for different reasons! I dreaded it like crazy! My kids know – out loud – how much I don’t like the idea of them getting older. I don’t know if it’s because I feel like I’m losing certain controls over them and their decisions or if it’s because it means they’re getting closer to not needing me but: “I DON’T LIKE IT ONE BIT!” Now, having said that, you have to continue reading because I get a huge wakeup call from God! I realized that my son’s 11th birthday was actually the most relaxed birthday and easiest birthday I’ve ever given! Can you believe it? See, God did a real number on me (excuse the human terminology) and He reminded me ever so gently that:

#1. He only loaned our kids to us.

#2. He is watching over them.

#3. He loves them more than I do.

Psalm 127:3 (NIV) Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him.

#4. He knows what’s best for them.

Mark 10:16 And he took the children in his arms, put his hands on them and blessed them.

#5. It’s ok for me to “let go of them” to a certain extent (they are still in my care).

#6. We’ve taught them according to His Word so it’s up to them to make the right choices.

“But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.” (2 Timothy 3:14-15 ESV)

Can you only imagine the peace that I felt all day? Even in the midst of 3 boys and 2 girls all over the place during the party, I was calm and lovin’ every minute of it! Only God can do that, believe me! He also gave me a bonus and provided a way for one of my girlfriends to spend some time with me during some of the party. We actually even got to talk and catch up some. That was awesome! See, He knew exactly what I needed and how to go about it! He’s so amazing! I just love Him so much and am so thankful that He’s brought me to this place of acceptance and trust in Him! Oh….I can’t forget…we even had a ceiling leak in the midst of it all but guess who took great care of it for us? Yeah, that would be God again!

I want to leave you with a verse that came to mind during this blog that says it all:

You keep him in perfect peace
whose mind is stayed on you,
because he trusts in you.
Trust in the Lord forever,
for the Lord God is an everlasting rock.

Isaiah 26:3-4