“What’s important is that they’re happy!”

Posted: May 6, 2014 in Just Me
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A group of very happy peopleThat phrase is thrown around so much today. Do you believe that as long as we’re happy or our friends and family are happy then we should be able to do WHATEVER it is that makes us happy?  What if we say we’re a Christian and others know that about us, yet, what we’re doing goes against the very God we say we love and obey? How does that saying apply then? Ouch! I felt the conviction!

Years ago I lived totally outside of God’s will for my life, doing exactly what I wanted all the while claiming to be one of His children, yet knowing what I was doing was against His Word, no matter how much fun it was and how “happy” I was. See, I was having a blast and had the attitude to go with it. I had my “fire insurance” as one of my favorite pastors used to say, but I avoided church like the plague, and especially avoided other Christians, who were sure to remind me what I was doing was wrong. I didn’t want to hear it. I justified it like crazy. I used the famous, “Don’t judge me.” Knowing good and well that God gave my fellow Christians the right to judge me and speak truth to me in love, which is all they tried to do but I wouldn’t hear of it. They cared and wanted me back in line with God’s will for my life. I spent several years disobeying God and living the “good life”, knowing deep inside that He wouldn’t let me go forever without doing something to get my attention and get me to come back to Him. I had “friends” who “supported” me. Of course they did; we were all doing the same things together. Did that make it right? No! I had lots of laughs and “fun”. Did that make it right? No! Should I have been allowed to continue living like I was while claiming to be following God? I think not! I know I shouldn’t! None of that mattered though because I let that temporary happy and unaccountable type living take over and convince me I’d always been a “good girl” so it was my time to live it up and “enjoy life”. Ha! It turned out to be a very difficult time in my life because the more things happened in my everyday reality, the deeper I’d get into the lifestyle that brought me temporary escape, but it’d all still be there, left for me to handle, after my so called “happy”. I didn’t want the “fun” to end and my actions kept telling God that and to let me go but fortunately for me, He didn’t give up on me, although the Scripture says He will if we continue to disobey Him.

Paul says that God, “GAVE THEM OVER.” God’s wrath is not in thunderbolts flung from Heaven but rather it is His settled,  regretful decision to give man over to his desire to sin. (That’s what I thought I  wanted. – my words)    (http://www.redlandbaptist.org/sermon/when-god-gives-up/)

I hadn’t realized just how ignorant and unloving that phrase actually is when you say it about someone who you know is not living according to God’s will for their life because they’ve claimed to be a Christian.  You have to admit that not answering to someone, like God, or fellow Christians, has to feel “fun, free and happy”, otherwise it isn’t tempting in the first place. Then, after living that way for a while, God gives us over to that way of living and we become resistant and deaf to His Words. Harder than that is He doesn’t answer our prayers.

Something I found so sad was that God won’t even hear us, His children, when we are disobeying Him. My actions affected my fellowship, my relationship with the only One who knew me inside and out and yet still loved me. Proverbs 28:9 “If anyone turns a deaf ear to my instruction, even their prayers are detestable.”

Another hard Scripture to swallow is Proverbs 1:28 “…they will look for me but will not find me, since they hated knowledge and did not choose to fear the LORD.”

So, all this to say, (1) If a Christian is living outside of Scripture and just wants you to be “happy” for them because they’re ‘happy” then I won’t and you shouldn’t wimp out and say “What’s important is that you’re happy.” (2) We should continue to show them love, speak God’s Truth with boldness but not beat them over the head with it. (I never listened to that kind of “truth”) and (3) Pray for them to come back to God!  Remember the story of the Prodigal Son Luke 15:11-32? Well, that’s me, the Prodigal Daughter and His arms were open wide and full of love when I finally did return to Him and His will for my life!

I won’t glamorize my bad choices over the years nor claim to be blameless today but I am a lot closer to God these days and have true happiness.

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