Sad, tragic but true – Many Are Hurting Over The Holidays

Posted: November 30, 2013 in Just Me
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While we may be counting our blessings, looking forward to family time and scurry around shopping, others are having a very difficult time right now. There are a number of reasons but the same, sad truth of it is: they’re hurting nonetheless.
Having been married before to a Police Sergeant I’ve heard way too many stories of dealings with tons of people who find it hard to be happy and enjoy the holidays. For numerous reasons, no matter the reason, it’s a true and deep sadness and loss they’re experiencing. No one gets to tell them to “buck up” nor “just choose to be happy”, especially if you’ve never been through what they’re experiencing. I’m no expert on the subject but have been around these hurting people and seen how others choose to react to them or selfishly don’t react at all. I read a great article about it and maybe it can help someone else become more aware too :
Loss-Grief
I’ve even witnessed first hand how some who called themselves friends selfishly chose to deal with my husband’s depression when he lost his job back in 2008. Not able to find work those 8 months after first taking no time to grieve the loss but immediately job searching, my husband slumped into a heavy depression. He wouldn’t take phone calls nor be around anyone but our immediate family and mostly stayed in bed. It was a very hard time for us but mostly for him. A childhood friend obviously didn’t know how to deal with such a situation and instead “defriended” him all together, stopping all the phone calls and future contact even to this day. Yeah – wow! In spite of my attempts to explain the depth of my husband’s depression to this friend he never really comprehended it and dismissed it as something we can only assume he thought my husband could simply get over and feel better about simply because he said so. It doesn’t work that way. My husband had to heal from the inside out and no one person could say the magic words to change that. Let me just say: that was an even bigger loss to my husband, as you can well imagine.
Even Christians can experience these feelings. We’re not exempt but we do have an advantage: our God of Hope.
Encouragement: For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope. (Romans 15:4 NIV)
God of Hope: May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. (Romans 15:13 NIV)
If you are going through something similar to this message or if you’re willing to notice the people in your life who may be experiencing loss – PLEASE get some help, read this article, (Loss-Grief) delve into scripture and allow the God of Hope to help you & them through this very hard time in your lives. There are people who care but better than that: God cares and sees you right where you are in your life. I pray He wraps His ever capable arms of love around you and that you cling to the cross while you can’t cling to anything nor anyone else.

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